Articles tagged with: Infidelity

Your Partner Cheated - Now What?

on Monday, 09 September 2013.

THREE MYTHS ABOUT INFIDELITY & THREE ACTIONS YOU CAN TAKE TO REBUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Extramarital affairs are more common than you think. So are the myths surrounding them. Because the experiences are often shrouded in shame and guilt, we don’t hear about the couples who actually recover from infidelity and how they did it.

Distinguishing reality from myth is a first step in getting to the truth and working through the experience.

Below are three of the most common myths about infidelity, demystified, followed by how you can thoughtfully rebuild your relationship.  

Myth #1. If my partner cheated once, she/he will cheat again. Most affairs are a one-time thing. They happen spontaneously and aren’t a result of someone searching for it or wanting it to happen. An affair is as individual as the members involved in it. Repeated affairs have more to do with unresolved problems, issues, and communication from each partner than a character flaw of one person. Each partner must be honest with his/her feelings of hurt, guilt, shame, jealousy and anger. What happens after the affair can set a relationship on a course for stability or blow it out of the water. After ending the affair, the person who cheated must be completely honest for healing to take place.