- Photos. When I ask clients about their number one disappointment about online dating, they tell me that their date used a ten-year-old, 20 pounds lighter photo. People! Why?! What good does it do anyone to post a photo that bears no likeness to the actual you? The person you eventually meet will certainly notice the bait-and-switch, and in addition to being disappointed, will also question your credibility. On another note, do NOT even think of taking a cell phone self-portrait in your messy bedroom. No one wants to see your piles of dirty laundry, unpacked boxes, and tattered Budweiser girl posters. We are visual by nature, and even the most open-minded person can’t help but draw (probably negative) conclusions of one kind or another. Help yourself out. Make sure you have at least 3 quality photos of yourself. One must be a full body shot representative of your actual physique. Like it or not we live in a full-disclosure age, and any profile lacking this will very possibly be glossed over (“oh he’s probably fat/got kankles/bowlegged” you name it). At least one photo should clearly showcase your eyes and face, and one photo should be of you doing something you enjoy. Whether your photo is of you rock climbing, walking your dog, surfing, or spending time with your children etc., you will give the viewers of your profile a glimpse into your personality and interests. Avoid the temptation to post a photo of your fancy car or your large fancy home. Try not to use a photo showing you with another man or woman that could lead someone to think they are looking at your ex. Remember that viewers of your profile need to decide if they want to meet you based solely on the information that you provide them, so do yourself a favor and make the choice to meet you an obvious one.